Couples relationships affects individuals and even the whole family. Our professional team provides information and practical tips on our services to prevent problems appearing among couples and enhance their relationships. When their relationships are on the rocks, we provide advice on solutions for their problems to ensure couples can learn and grow together.
We leave our original family and start a new family with our spouse after marriage. The important things in the couple relationship are mutual support, understanding each other, and maintain a healthy marital relationship. We could not come up with a solution if we only expect our spouses to listen to our own wishes.
Iceberg Theory of Satir Modal indicates that the more obvious reasons for a behavior or opinion are almost never a complete explanation: Much of the real explanation lies below the surface, requiring intensive exploration to uncover.
We have to truly understand ourselves in making the decision. Your preference to "live with parents" may be due to your deep feelings and honour for them, hence being reluctant and fearful to be separated from them. On the contrary, your spouse who would rather live with you alone may long for a more intimate and private marital relationship, also with the anxiety for being unable to adapt to your parent's living habits and fear of possible tensions with her mother-in-law. Behind your different choices there lies your thoughts and feelings which you wish your spouse could comprehend. We suggest you communicate with your spouse to understand each other's thoughts, before reaching a feasible solution together.
Sources: Ms. Tsang, Social Worker (Family Service), Hong Kong Family Welfare Society
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